Monthly Archives: January 2011

Lessons I’ve Learned in my 21 Years of Life

I’ve learned that…

  • Trust is the most difficult thing one can part with and if someone offers their trust to you then you should cherish it. You should be thankful that that person gave you their trust. Don’t take trust for granted. Even if someone breaks their own rules, don’t break theirs, because you will lose their trust forever. This applies to every kind of relationship – your partner, your family, your friends, your boss.
  • Badmouthing people behind their backs gets you into a shitload of trouble. There was a time when I used to believe “Well, I’m sure lots of people bitch about me so why shouldn’t I bitch about them?”. Don’t do it. If you have nothing nice to say don’t say it all.
  • This kind of has to do with the above. If you’re in a shitty relationship and you keep complaining about it to everyone except your own partner then things will only get worse. If you are not happy about your relationship then you should tackle the problem head-on. It’s sort of your fault if you break up with someone and you didn’t even try to talk to them about your concerns. Plus, it sucks on the other person who you were leading on when you actually were unhappy and he/she had no clue (supposedly). Be assertive.
  • No matter how much you want to believe in the contrary a lot of relationships and contacts in your life will be made for convenience except for those precious few who think you’re the most amazing person on earth even when you’re at the lowest point in your life.
  • Even “single-girls-by-choice” fantasize about their wedding day, even if they won’t ever admit it.
  • Men and women who are single by choice and don’t want to get married or be in a serious relationship still feel absolutely horrible on Valentine’s Day. I guess the same may be applied to most other holidays. (Aunt Gertrude at the Christmas Party: How old are you now Philip? Philip: 32. Aunt G: Oh such a shame. But I’m sure you’ll find someone soon enough. Don’t give up. Philip: *grinds teeth and mumbles* Aunt G: What was that darling? Philip: Oh nothing Aunt G. I just said I’ve been seeing this girl for a few weeks now. Aunt G: Oh that’s lovely! *in a sarcastic unbelieving tone* You should bring her over to our New Year’s party. Philip: *fuuuuuuuu*)

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  • No matter how busy or broke you are you need to take a break once in a while. It does wonders to your mental health and concentration.
  • We are responsible for the good and the bad things that happen in our lives. Nobody else. We need to stop blaming each other and take 100% responsibility of our actions. Harsh, but true.

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  • There’s absolutely no reason to use your childhood traumas as an excuse to your current situation in life. How you live your life is in your hands and if you believe that, then you will feel truly empowered. On the other hand, there is no shame in feeling resentment towards people who impacted your life negatively. But if these feelings are stopping you from reaching your true potential then you have to speak to someone. There are a lot of professionals and agencies that can help you get back on your feet these days. No excuses. This is your life.
  • Writing heals. Try it. If you’re angry at someone write all that you feel on paper and then read it a couple of times. What you read will mostly shock you and you will probably rip the paper into pieces and feel peace of mind. It will also help you confront a person more calmly if there’s ever the need to because everything that was boiling up inside of you would have been put into perspective. However, most often than not what you write will reveal that your anger was just based on fears, past bad experiences and misunderstandings.
  • You’re never too old to try new things.
  • If you’ve tried to be really open and patient with a person but they still treat you badly just walk away from them. It’s hard to do but your sanity will thank you later. And if these people really did value you then they will thank you for walking away from them later.

  • No matter how much you love yourself there will always be people who try to lower your self esteem. Everyone has different ideas of beauty. What you treasure the most about yourself may not be someone’s cup of tea. Just accept that and carry on.

  • Success comes through hard work and sacrifices. There’s no way around it.
  • People will judge you ALL THE BLOODY TIME. They will judge you from the way you keep your  hair, the friends you have, the job you have, the music you listen to. And you can’t do anything about it but be yourself and hope they see you for who you are.
  • I can’t really compete against others because everyone has different talents and different disabilities. I suck at sports, for example, but I love to write! So really and truly, when I pick an outfit, force myself to study or work hard at a new job, I’m doing it for myself. I’m competing against myself. And that’s what life is – competing with yourself. If all the world had equal geographical areas, history, opportunities and everyone started life with an equal sum of money given by a single global government, we would still never achieve peace and equality because we have the freedom of choice. Some of us may save that money. Some of us may spend it all. Some of us may go to school. Some may opt not to. So even if we started out equal we wouldn’t die equal because our destiny depends on what we make it out to be.

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  • Despite all this, believing in the old cliche that “everything happens for a reason” will get you back on track when times get hard. Plus, it may help you realize that what you wanted was not necessarily what you needed.
  • Even though I sometimes wish I was born in another era I look back at national and world historic moments in my life with awe. These are moments I lived in MY lifetime. These are moments that define my time and my existence. It is hard to explain this feeling but it is that moment when you know you were part of something big even if it was in an indirect manner (or it happened hundreds of miles away) and that your actions at the time could yield negative or positive consequences at that precise moment in time and may affect the future of the ones that come after you.
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Carousel [Week 3, Year 2011]

Cherish your life, even the little insignificant moments.

I’ve had a weird week.

Monday

An old lady stops me at the supermarket and tells me “I just want to say you’re a beautiful person not just your face and on the outside but also on the inside. I don’t know you very much but I can tell that you are a good person when you smile at me as I enter the supermarket”. Awkward, flattering, unique moment. Made my day. Then in the evening I hurt someone I dearly love because of some mistakes I made in my past. So two opposing scenarios in one day. Well, I didn’t say I was perfect.

Tuesday

Studying for an evening exam and the old lady who lives two doors up puts on the karaoke machine and doesn’t stop singing 80’s tunes until I leave the house for my exam. She sounds like she’s had a few too many as well. Annoying but hilarious experience (trauma?).

Wednesday

I get a free pot of yoghurt at the University canteen. Old cleaning lady who loves me to bits (only God knows why) sneaks another pot into my bag and winks at me. I act cool as the cashier is looking quizzically at me, nod and rush out. Awkward but cool moment yet again.

Thursday

Boring day.

Friday

Got another free yoghurt. Yay! But another average day. Except for my friend playing a prank on my two hetero friends and putting a picture of them “together” in a Valentine’s Day competition on Facebook to win a free hotel weekend break. They ended up being featured on a famous Maltese blogger’s blog and the comments that ensued were hilarious. Some people took it seriously but luckily the guys were good sports and tagged along. Haha.

Fine…

So my week wasn’t all that grand but there were some memorable moments. Let’s move on the usual weekly fix shall we?

  • This is so on my birthday wishlist. Click the picture!

  • SOMETHING THAT MAKES ME HAPPY: Skins Season 5 Opening Trailer

  • SOMETHING THAT MAKES ME SAD: Skins USA Season 1 Episode 1. I watched the pilot episode and I was quite disappointed which was expected anyway! Why did they bastardize such a good series? 😦
  • Amazing Opera singer Charity Tillemann-Dick talks about singing again after her double lung transplant. Truly mesmerising story!

 

Carousel [Week 2, Year 2011]

Stairway to Book Heaven. Brilliant! But must be hard to clean...

Salut!

Welcome to this week’s carousel. I hope you had a great weekend. And to top it all off my picks of the week…

"Electric Blue" - Styling by Marie Nichols. Amazing colour scheme. I love interior design.

  • I got a shock last week when I heard the Zodiac star signs had changed. I never read my horoscope so I guess it wouldn’t have really bothered me but I’m still kind of proud that I’m a Gemini. Weird huh? Thank God the change is for babies born from 2009. Phew!
  • My new food obsession in 2011 is the CRANBERRY. I made some sweet ricotta and cranberries vol-au-vents with icing sugar for New Year’s Day lunch and I became obsessed. I’ve also been having Weetabix’s Minibix with Cranberries, Raspberries and Raisins. BLISS. And now I found out this magical fruit also has it’s own Institute for the research and increased awareness of the health benefits of cranberries. Seriously, this fruit has to be part of everyone’s balanced diet!
  • Are you a Skins fan? Then you’ll love this website 🙂

My friend posted this on her Twitter. LOVE IT! Girl Power FTW.

  • Do you want to be an Illustrator? This article on galadarling.com is a real eye-opener.
  • Is happiness genetic? Another cool extract at galadarling.com taken from The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin (As you can tell I am a crazy Gala fan).
  • Original Space Jam website is still online after 16 yrs!! Somebody hold me, I feel a wave of super geek fanaticism rushing over me. I was such a Space Jam fan back in the day. Michael Jordan was my hero, Chicago was my favourite city and I sang “I Believe I Can Fly” every day till the age of 14. Can I share another secret? I kind of still sing it every now and then. *blushes*
  • My favourite church song sang by an amazing Gospel Choir:

  • Been stuck on this song all day! ———->

  • The first Saturday Night Live of 2011 was hosted by Jim Carrey and got one of the highest ratings in a long time! Jim Carrey is another one of my childhood heroes and I still love him to bits:-

With Great Talent Comes Great Responsibility

One of the videos that really caught my eye at the end of 2010 was the story of Ted Williams, an ex-radio DJ who became an alcoholic and drug addict and fought for over 11 years to get sober again. He has now been sober for two and a half years and was discovered by a man who filmed a video of him using his “Golden Voice” and posted it on Youtube. Since then the man has gotten multiple offers from TV to radio to voice-overs. What I find so inspirational about Ted is that he is ready to admit that he took the good things in his life for granted. He just gave up on life because he didn’t want to work hard for what he wanted. He let go of his talents. Now at 52 and sober, Ted is trying to change what’s left of his life around. And he is doing it with such humility and hope that it sincerely touched my heart.

I really wish this man success and I shall leave you all with this quote by Robert Half:-

“Hard work without talent is a shame, but talent without hard work is a tragedy.”

 

Carousel [Week 1, Year 2011]

  • It seems art made out of books is becoming very popular again as you may remember from my last carousel where I posted an artist who made sculptures out of old phonebooks [ Need a little reminder? ]. But now I found an artist called Jeremy May who makes recycled jewellery out of old thrown out books. His business goes by the name and slogan “Littlefly -Literary Jewels by Jeremy May.” Sweet. 🙂

Click on image to visit Jeremy's site!

  • Kinda Just Wish I Had an Arranged Marriage… Really interesting article about divorce. I sort of agree with the author. I remember at age 13/14 I didn’t believe in love and thought that marriages used to last as they were arranged!
  • This is priceless. A school principal from Westside Middle School in Memphis is trying to put an end to boys who wear saggy pants with their ass all out by pulling their pants up like popular 90s sitcom nerd Steve Urkel, taking a photo of the boys and putting them up on a Wall of Shame:

“The authors argue that when young adults invest in themselves and their careers before taking on the baggage of marriage, children and a job to pay the bills, they are equipped to make better choices down the road, for themselves and as citizens. Having a child too early can be one of the costliest barriers to advancement, whereas postponing nuptials until careers are in place leads to lower divorce rates.”

  • A girl using make-up to transform herself into Jared Leto. Amazing!

Carousel [Week 52, Year 2010]

Over 12 hours ago my little brother posted a Facebook status that read as follows:-

“If you can’t find happiness around you, make your own!”

I instantly liked his status and asked him if everything was alright. He simply said he was in a good mood. This afternoon, I helped him get ready for his New Year’s Eve party and I smiled as he entered the room with his suit on. I felt happy at that point. Happy to see my brother had grown into this smart young man with lots of friends and a great sense of humour. A man who doesn’t know how to wear a tie, but a man nonetheless.

The problem with happiness is that we are always looking for it but it’s not such an easy thing to find. I think we raise our expectations too high most of the time and that is why a lot of us are never truly happy. Another human trait that keeps us away from happiness is that we are always complaining and sulking about the things we don’t have. When is the last time you stopped and celebrated the things you do have without boasting or with ulterior motives? I think before we start making resolutions for 2011 we should first stop and appreciate the things we achieved in the last twelve months and the people who were there along the way (even during the bad times). Only then can we set realistic goals for the new year that make us happier, healthier and wiser.

Happy New Year my friends and now for the last carousel of the year. Just in case you don’t know, a carousel is a post published every Friday that contains all the fun stuff that caught my eye during the week. I hope you enjoy it! I haven’t done one in two months so this one is extra special!

Much Love and Happiness,

Tammy xxx

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  • According to the Chinese zodiac calendar, 2011 is the Year of the Rabbit. It starts on February 3, 2011 and ends on January 31, 2012. This is a year of endurance so be prepared to make some sacrifices. I was born in the year of the Snake and apparently I am going to have a bad year. The chart told me not to go to a funeral, avoid cold food as I will get a gastrointestinal infection and to avoid gambling. Err, OK.
  • Art made out of phone books??? This is truly amazing stuff! Artist Alex Queral carves faces out of phone books. I especially like the Jack Nicholson one. I could slide it into a box made to look like a phone book cover and give it to someone to open and when they do I’d have a little speaker that goes “Here’s Johnny!!”. Yes, it’s complicated, but funny.
  • 9 to 5 job or being your own boss? I found this article by Danielle Laporte quite inspiring. How exactly do we equate happiness with work? Does it depend on the type of job? Are we promoting the “entrepreneurial spirit” in the wrong way?
  • COLOUR OF THE YEAR 2011: This has been announced a while ago but I only got around to posting it now. Every year I eagerly await Pantone’s Colour of the Year. Pantone are a worldwide authority on colour and some people simply wait for this announcement every year so that they can re-paint their living rooms and buy new curtains. It’s craziness!
  • One of my fave typography artists. Click the picture to find more of his "quotes" work.

  • LIVE WEBCAM of NYE celebrations in TIMES SQUARE. There’s a Malta one too on the site along with other countries although it’s kind of stuck! But the Times Square one is live and flowing!
  • Rolling Stones: BEST 50 songs of 2010. I don’t always agree with Rolling Stones and their choice of #1 is not my favourite but it is a justified one. The man behind the song was recently described in an interview as an artist with no competition; he competes against himself. And that’s already one hard record to beat!